Kodi Pali Munthu Wokwiya?

M'nthawi yathu ino ya pop-psychology, pomwe anzawo ali ofunitsitsa kupita pa intaneti kuti adziwe kuti ali ndi vuto la umunthu, ndimafunsidwa nthawi zonse za "munthu wokwiya."

Neuroticism ndimakhalidwe koma osati mkwiyo. Pokhapokha pokhapokha ngati matenda amisala - kukhumudwa, kaduka, nsanje, kudziimba mlandu, kukhumudwa, kusungulumwa - ndizo akuimbidwa mlandu pa iwo eni kapena ena, kodi amadzetsa mkwiyo. Kuimba mlandu ndi njira yophunzirira yolimbana nayo, osati mawonekedwe amunthu.

Ngakhale palibe "umunthu wokwiya," malingaliro ndi zizolowezi zotsatirazi ndizogwirizana ndi mkwiyo wosatha ndi mkwiyo.

Ufulu

Ufulu wanga ndi mwayi wanga ndi wapamwamba kuposa ena. Mwa maubwenzi, ufulu wanga wopeza zomwe ndikufuna umalanda ufulu wanu osandipatsa zomwe ndikufuna.

Yambirani zinthu zomwe simungathe kuzilamulira

M'magalimoto, amayang'ana momwe msewu waukulu uyenera kuti unapangidwira, momwe magetsi amayenera kulumikizidwira, komanso momwe anthu ena amayendetsera. Mu maubwenzi, amayang'ana kwambiri pakuwongolera machitidwe ndi malingaliro a anzawo.

Kuwongolera kwakunja kwamalingaliro

Amayesetsa kuwongolera momwe akumvera poyang'anira chilengedwe.

Maganizo sakhala m'chilengedwe. Maganizo ali mwa ife, ndipo ndipamene ayenera kuwongolera.

Malo akunja olamulira

Amakhulupirira kuti thanzi lawo, tsogolo lawo, limayang'aniridwa ndi mphamvu zamphamvu kunja kwa iwo eni, ndikuziwononga, sadzalandira.

Kukana kuwona malingaliro ena

Amazindikira malingaliro osiyanasiyana monga kuwopseza.

Kulekerera pang'ono kumakhala kovuta

Zovuta zimachitika makamaka chifukwa chakuchepa kwa zinthu zakuthupi - kutopa, njala, kugona tulo. Amasokoneza kusapeza bwino ndi chilango chosayenera. Monga momwe zimakhalira ndi ana ambiri aang'ono, kusakhazikika kumasintha kukhala mkwiyo.

Kulekerera kwakanthawi kosamveka bwino

Zowona ndikutengeka, osati nzeru. Kuti titsimikize, tiyenera kuchepetsa kuchuluka kwa zomwe tikupanga. Kusamvetseka kumafunikira kukonza zambiri, zomwe zimawona ngati zowopseza.

Hyper-focus pa cholakwa

Amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndikunena zolakwika pamavuto kuposa kuwathetsa. Izi zimawapangitsa kukhala opanda mphamvu kuti athe kukonza zomwe akumana nazo.

Iwo omwe amawadzudzula amakhala opanda renti m'mitu mwawo ndikuwongolera malingaliro awo ndi momwe akumvera.

Zosasunthika

Mkwiyo unasanduka zinyama ngati chitetezo. Pamafunika lingaliro la chiopsezo kuphatikiza chiwopsezo. Pomwe timakhala pachiwopsezo chotere, ndipamenenso titha kuwona zowopsa. (Nyama zovulazidwa komanso zanjala zitha kukhala zoopsa kwambiri.) Masiku ano, ziwopsezo zomwe timaziwona zimangokhala zodzikuza zokha.

Kufunika kwachitetezo chotere kumafooketsa kudzikonda, kuwapangitsa kukhala otakasuka, m'malo mochita zinthu mwachangu, mopupuluma kufunafuna mphamvu zakanthawi kudzera pa adrenaline ya mkwiyo, m'malo mochita zabwino kwanthawi yayitali. Khalidwe la anthu okwiya likakhala kuti limawapindulitsa kwakanthawi, nthawi zambiri limangochitika mwangozi.

Palibe chimodzi mwazomwe tafotokozazi ndi mawonekedwe amunthu. Zonsezi ndi zizolowezi zophunziridwa komanso malingaliro. Mosiyana ndi umunthu, zizolowezi ndi malingaliro amatha kusintha, ndikuchita.

Titha kuphunzira kukonza, m'malo mongodzudzula. M'mayanjano, titha kuphunzira masomphenya openyerera - kutha kuwona zonse ziwiri nthawi imodzi - m'malo mopondereza malingaliro ena.

M'mabanja athu, titha kuphunzira kudzimvera chisoni - kuyimilira ufulu wathu ndi zokonda zathu, pomwe tikulemekeza ufulu, zokonda, komanso kusatetezeka kwa okondedwa athu.