Kodi Maukwati Osakwanitsa Zaka Amatha Nthawi?

Zamkati

• Momwe Zokonda Zakale Zimasinthira Pazaka
• Momwe Zolosera Pagulu Zimakhudzira Kupambana Kwaubwenzi
• Maukwati Ena Adzatha

• Amuna ndi akazi onse akuti poyamba anali okhutira ndi banja lawo pomwe okwatirana anali achichepere, malipoti a kafukufuku.
• Ngakhale maanja omwe anali ndi zaka zakubadwa adayamba kukhala okhutira kwambiri, komabe, kukhutira kwawo kudayamba kuchepa kwambiri pakapita nthawi kuposa maanja omwe anali amsinkhu wofanana.
• Zotsatira zakuchulukana kwamalingaliro omwe anthu amathandizidwa ndi mabanja azaka zambiri, kuphatikiza zovuta zaumoyo zomwe zingakhudze okwatirana, zitha kuchititsa izi kuchepa.

Ambiri aife timadziwa mabanja osangalala obadwa mosiyana zaka makumi angapo. Mosasamala kanthu za wokondedwa yemwe ndi wamkulu, zimawoneka kuti zikugwirizana munjira ina iliyonse. Ngakhale zili zowona kuti anthu amakonda kuweruziratu zaubwenzi wazaka, pali umboni kuti atsikana ena amangokonda amuna achikulire, ndipo amuna ambiri amakonda akazi achikulire nawonso. Koma mosasamala kanthu kuti ndi wamkulu uti yemwe ali wamkulu, kodi kuphatikiza awiriwa kungayime nthawi yayitali? Kafukufuku ali ndi mayankho.

Momwe Zokonda Zakale Zimasinthira Pazaka

Wang-Sheng Lee ndi Terra McKinnish (2018) adasanthula momwe mipata yazaka zimakhudzira kukhutira pakukhala ndi banja. [I] Ponena za chikhumbo chofala chokwatirana "malinga ndi msinkhu, mu zitsanzo za ku Australia zomwe adaphunzira, adapeza kuti Amuna ankakhutira ndi akazi achichepere, ndipo akazi amakhutitsidwa kwambiri ndi amuna achichepere. Amuna ndi akazi amakonda kusakhutira ndi okwatirana achikulire.

Ponena za kuchuluka kwakukwaniritsidwa pakati paukwati, komabe, Lee ndi McKinnish adapeza kuti kukhutira muukwati kudachepa kwambiri kwa amuna ndi akazi omwe ali ndi zaka zapakati, poyerekeza ndi mabanja azaka zofananira. Izi zimachepa zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mabanja azikhala okhutira poyambirira omwe amuna ndi akazi okwatirana ndi akazi ang'onoang'ono azaka zapakati pa 6 mpaka 10 atakwatirana.

Amavomereza kuti zomwe apeza sizikugwirizana ndi kafukufuku wamabanja ndi zoperewera zaka, komanso chidziwitso cha pa intaneti komanso mwachangu-chomwe chikuwonetsa kukondera kwa okalamba omwewo. Pokambirana zomwe zingachitike chifukwa chakusokonekera, Lee ndi McKinnish akuvomereza udindo womwe njirayi komanso mwayi wopambana pachibwenzi, mwazinthu zina, zimasewera pakupanga chisankho choti akhale pachibwenzi.

Makamaka, amazindikira kuti zomwe zikusonyeza kuti abambo ndi amai amakonda okondedwa omwe ali okalamba ndikutanthauzira kovomerezeka ngati osakwatira amanyalanyaza mwayi wopambana pachibwenzi. Chifukwa choti abambo poyamba amakhala ndi mabanja okwatirana ndi akazi ang'onoang'ono, koma akazi samakhutira kwenikweni ndi amuna achikulire, izi zikuwonetsa kuti amuna atha kufunafuna kutsata akazi achichepere - koma kuopa kulephera (mwachitsanzo, kukhumudwitsa omwe adzakhale mkazi wawo wamtsogolo) kumawapangitsa iwo kukhulupirira kuti adzangochita kuchita bwino ndi "anzanu achichepere otsika mtengo." Amawona kuti kulingalira komweku kumatha kufotokozera kukana kwa azimayi kuti azichita zibwenzi ndi anyamata achichepere.

Kodi chingakhale chifukwa chiyani kuchepa kwa chikhutiro chaukwati mzaka zapitazi? Lee ndi McKinnish akuganiza kuti mwina okwatirana omwe ali ndi zaka zakubadwa sangathe kuthana ndi mavuto azachuma poyerekeza ndi mabanja azaka zofananira. Koma mwina sangathenso kuthana ndi malingaliro olakwika a ena?

Momwe Zolosera Pagulu Zimakhudzira Kupambana Kwaubwenzi

Mabanja ena omwe ali ndi zaka zakubadwa amadzidera nkhawa momwe amawonekera komanso ndemanga zomwe amamva pagulu. Anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi kapena omwe angokwatirana kumene kumene angokwatirana amachenjezedwa kuti chibwenzi chawo sichitha. Chifukwa chiyani chiyembekezo choterechi? Upangiri wosavomerezeka, wosasankhidwa maubwenzi nthawi zambiri umachokera kuzambiri zomwe zimapangidwa mwasayansi komanso mosagwirizana.

Nkhani mu Nyanja ya Atlantic ya mutu wakuti “Kuti Ukwati Ukhale Wosatha, Yesani Kukwatira Wina Wam'badwo Wanu,” [ii] ndikuwona moyenera kuti "Ziwerengero, sizomwe zikuchitika," adatchulapo kafukufuku wofotokoza kuti maanja omwe anali ndi zaka zisanu kusiyana pazaka anali 18 peresenti kuthekera kutha, ndipo kusiyana kwa zaka kunali zaka 10, mwayi udakwera mpaka 39 peresenti.

Mabanja ambiri okhala ndi zaka zosagwirizana amatsutsa mwamphamvu zonenedweratu zoipa ndipo amatsutsa ziwerengerozo. Anthu ambiri amadziwa mabanja osagwirizana msinkhu omwe akhala pabanja lalikulu kwazaka zambiri. Koma moyenera, pambuyo pake m'moyo, wokalamba akhoza kukumana ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndi thanzi asanakwatirane-zomwe zitha kukhala zopanikiza kwa onse. Zachidziwikire, maanja otere akudziwa kuti tsikulo lidzafika, koma nyengo nyengo ino mosiyana. Zochitika ndi maanja munthawi imeneyi m'moyo zingakhudze momwe timaonera ma peyala awiriwa.

Maukwati Ena Adzatha

Mabanja ambiri achimwemwe omwe amalekanitsidwa ndi kusiyana kwa msinkhu amakumbutsa anzawo ndi mabanja omwe ali ndi zolinga zabwino kuti adalumbira kukondana ndi okondedwa awo mpaka imfa idzatilekanitse. Mamembala a malo ochezera a pa Intaneti omwe ali ndi mabanja oterewa ndi anzeru kuwathandiza popanda kuwanyengerera.

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